1. Six Traits of Extraordinary Achievers
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    by Mark Sanborn

    In my work with entrepreneurs, athletes, business leaders and other highly successful people, I've noticed that extraordinary achievers often share common characteristics and traits. While the following list isn't exhaustive, it highlights some of the key attributes of those who are among the very best at what they do. This is a list worth striving for in your own personal and professional development. Assess yourself to determine where growth opportunities exist.

    1. They are masters of self.
    The woman or man who becomes excellent and sustains that excellence throughout his or her life is first and foremost a master of self. She knows that nobody else can do for her what only she can do for herself. The motivated person takes responsibility for decisions, actions and motivation.

    Beyond taking responsibility, the best become failure-proof. That doesn't mean they don't make mistakes or miss their goals from time to time. It does mean that they don't allow setbacks to prevent them from trying again. They often use their setbacks to leap ahead. They learn from their mistakes and adjust their efforts accordingly. They are paragons of perseverance.

    2. They are curious about many things.
    Extraordinary achievers aren't just "learned." The best have learned how to learn. They understand the principles and techniques that enable them to learn whatever is important for their improvement and advancement. They live the motto of the late Cavett Robert who said school is never out for the professional.

    More often than not the best learn the most important lessons after their formal education has ended. Some of the great achievers never had much formal education. All, however, have enrolled in the university of practical experience. This enables them to learn much more from the same experiences that others have but ignore. The best continue to perpetually expand their knowledge base and skill set.

    3. They add value to what they do.
    Highly successful people either create new value or they add value to the important work they do. They compete successfully by offering better ideas, products and/or services than their competitors. They do more than talk about "value-added"--they deliver on it.

    The best are artists at taking ordinary job responsibilities, products and services and making them extraordinary. They are real-world alchemists who practice the art and science of value creation.

    4. They build relationships rather than simply interacting.
    The best use synergy with others to advantage. They understand that all results are created by and through interactions with others. As a result, they have become students of psychology. They understand that strong relationships create loyalty and are the basis of partnerships and teamwork. The best network to develop distribution channels for their talents and work well in partnerships with customers and teams of colleagues.

    They are also highly influential. They don't just tell; they sell. Believing that your product, service or idea is so good that it doesn't need to be sold is the height of arrogance.

    They know that their ideas are competing for attention in the marketplace of ideas. They enlist the support and involvement of others through their passionate ability to persuade.

    5. They create opportunities and embrace the change.
    Resistance to change is the norm. Few initiate change for themselves or their organizations. But the best know the futility of resisting the inevitable and use change to their advantage. But they are not mastered by change. Instead, they are change masters. They make the most of changes that are necessary, and they pursue the changes that are profitable.

    Achievers don't waste energy trying to put more time in their lives. They know this is impossible. Instead, they demonstrate that you can put more life in your time.

    6. They are "Go-Givers."
    Money is important to many of the best, but more often than not, it is a means of keeping score. The best are those who leave a legacy and live by the service ethic. In the process, they find their material rewards are matched or exceeded by the meaning they create in the process. (My friends Bob Burg and John David Mann wrote a great little book entitled, The Go Giver.)

    The best fulfill a passion for significance. They outlive themselves not by the results they've achieved, but by the way they've affected and touched others.

    Whether formal leaders, entrepreneurs or employees, they have a profound impact on others because of the example they set. They inspire through their own efforts.

  2. This is a remarkably vulnerable and frank article. Liza - a gifted writer and mother of a child with challenges, explains her battle  as a mother who is raising a son who needs more help than she can give.
    “No way,” I told him. “You cannot act the way you acted this morning and think you can get your electronic privileges back that quickly.”
    His face turned cold, and his eyes were full of calculated rage. “Then I’m going to kill myself,” he said. “I’m going to jump out of this car right now and kill myself.”
    That was it. After the knife incident, I told him that if he ever said those words again, I would take him straight to the mental hospital, no ifs, ands, or buts. I did not respond, except to pull the car into the opposite lane, turning left instead of right.
    “Where are you taking me?” he said, suddenly worried. “Where are we going?”
    “You know where we are going,” I replied.
    Pray for Michael
  3. Gov. Huckabee delivers a powerful speech and explanation of his comments about God's presence / absence in the Connecticut school tragedy. I think he has two things right: 1) redirecting us back to the only Answer and Source of Truth, and 2) making a strong point in showing us that our actions and lifestyles have consequences.


  4. We become virtuous, brave, generous by being virtuous, brave, generous... It takes but the inspiration - or just the choice - to begin.

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  5. The Sisters are on it again. Anyone who is trying her or his best to be who God created him or her to be makes me want to do the same. If you support women trying to reach out to other women in beautiful, powerful and intimate ways, support this project.
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    Seven Speaking Tips That Beat “Pretend Your Audience Is Naked"
    By Harry Beckwith, J.D.
    Published on Psychology Today (http://www.psychologytoday.com)

    Aggh. Everyone showed up clothed!

    Once upon a time, I suffered from glossophobia.

    This affliction touches billions.  It's the fear of public speaking, even to a tiny group.

    I conquered it by discovering what makes people smile, nod, and listen carefully, because nothing calms you down faster than an interested audience.

    This is what I've learned.

    People love stories. Children plea for them at night, and adults crave them, too. Stories make us wonder; we want to know what happens next, which keeps us engaged, even enthralled.

    Tell stories.

    People don't want to be impressed.  They want to be respected.  Rookie speakers feel tempted to impress an audience, assuming that this will make their ideas sound impressive, too. But if your words or actions suggest "I am better than you," people won't care what you say.

    This principle also underlies another rule of effective speaking: Dress like your audience, but just a little bit better."

    Don't try to impress them. Try to touch them.

    People care if. If you truly want to help your listeners--by informing or motivating them, or improving their lives--they will care and listen. But they will care only if you do.
    This recalls a favorite tip: "If you really care, notify your face."

    Your eyes mean everything. We mistrust people who won't look us in the eyes--even if our eyes are among over 200 sets in a room. We regard peoples' eyes as windows to their souls, and it's from our eyes that people assess us.
    If you look each person in the eye for a few seconds, you make each person feel important--a feeling that every person craves.  It also makes each audience member feel involved; it makes your presentation feel like a conversation rather than a recitation.

    For this reason, minimize visual aids.  They break eye contact and make it appear that you are talking to the screen and not to your listeners.

    Look them in the eyes.

    Preparation matters.  But not for the reason you suspect. Preparation does more than make a presentation appear polished--and a too-polished presentation actually can feel inauthentic, even souless. If you've spent hours learning about the people to whom you are speaking, you will communicate the most compelling message you can deliver to a person: You are important to me.

    If it's worth saying, it bears repeating. The old rule--"Tell them what you are going to tell them, then tell them, then tell them what you told them"--reflects the limitations of our memories. Plus researchers have shown repeatedly that people are more apt to believe something they hear more than once--even if they hear it from the same person, and even if they question that person's credibility.

    Repetition works.

    People love music. An outstanding speech is musical; it ebbs and flows, hits a variety of notes, and makes beautiful use of pauses and silence. Just as in humor, speaking's key ingredient is timing.

    Allow some gaps between your notes.

    Obey The Rule of Seven. There's a reason why only seven principles appear above: Our brains and memories have limits. We can recall seven-digit phone numbers.  Throw in an area code, however, and we become helpless. So make no more than seven points. (Recent research suggests that making just three or four points works much better.

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    Here's a bonus:

  7. NYT Article


    Dorothy Day is a hero of the Catholic left, a fiery 20th-century social activist who protested war, supported labor strikes and lived voluntarily in poverty as she cared for the needy.
    But Day has found a seemingly unlikely champion in New York’s conservative archbishop, Cardinal Timothy M. Dolan, who has breathed new life into an effort to declare the Brooklyn native a saint.
    Cardinal Dolan has embraced her cause with striking zeal: speaking on the anniversaries of her birth and death, distributing Dorothy Day prayer cards to parishes and even buying roughly 100 copies of her biography to give out last year as Christmas gifts to civic officials including Mayor Michael R. Bloomberg.
    This month, at Cardinal Dolan’s recommendation, the United States Conference of Catholic Bishops voted unanimously to move forward with her canonization cause, even though, as some of the bishops noted, she had an abortion as a young woman and at one point flirted with joining the Communist Party.
    “I am convinced she is a saint for our time,” Cardinal Dolan said at the bishops’ meeting. She exemplifies, he said, “what’s best in Catholic life, that ability we have to be ‘both-and’ not ‘either-or.’”
    Day, born in 1897 to a nonobservant Protestant family, dropped out of the University of Illinois and moved to New York to work as a journalist for leftist publications in the bohemian literary world of downtown Manhattan. She converted to Catholicism in 1927, citing a spiritual awakening that was accelerated by the joy that she felt upon the birth of a daughter, Tamar. She said she chose Catholicism for many reasons — partly because it was the religion of so many of the workers and poor people whose cause she fought for as a socialist writer, and partly because she had lived in Chicago with Catholic roommates whose faith had deeply impressed her.
    She spent decades as a passionate lay Catholic, devoting her life to the principles of social justice, including pacifism and service to the poor, that she felt were at the root of her religion’s teachings.
    Though she was traditional in her religious practices and strong in her love for the church, her relationship with the church hierarchy in her lifetime was not always smooth. No Catholic bishops attended her funeral, though Cardinal Terence Cooke blessed her body as it arrived for the funeral Mass, according to Robert Ellsberg, the editor of her letters and diaries.
    But bishops now say Day’s life resonates with the struggles that they are most engaged in today: the fight against abortion and their concern about government intrusion in their affairs. In her radical rejection of government — Day believed all states were inherently totalitarian — the bishops see echoes of their fight with the Obama administration over health care.
    “As we struggle at this opportune moment to try to show how we are losing our freedoms in the name of individual rights, Dorothy Day is a very good woman to have on our side,” Cardinal Francis E. George, archbishop of Chicago, said during a discussion of Day’s sainthood cause at a meeting of bishops.
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