1. By Richard Cohen
    from The Saratogian

    With Nelson Mandela, the devil would not like the details. We all know that he spent 27 years in jail, much of it on Robben Island. We all know about his remarkable strength, intellect and tolerance. But I for one did not know that when he was in prison, he studied Afrikaans, the language of his jailers, so he could get to know them better and possibly convert them to his cause. Physically he was a big man. But it was how he conducted himself that made other men seem so small.

    Mandela would have done similar, daily labor.
    Mandela is no demigod. He had his faults, but rage, anger, jealousy, egotism and the need for revenge were not among them. He was born into tribal nobility — the son of a chief — and an easy life was his for the asking. But he chose the path of rebellion against racist apartheid, which is to say he chose to be on the run, to live underground, to forsake the love of astonishingly attractive Winnie — and yet all the time to pursue knowledge. It seems he did not waste a moment in prison. He was forever studying something.

    On Robben Island, where he spent 18 years, he was largely confined to a fetid cell. He slept on a straw mat. He was persecuted by the guards. He spent his days breaking rocks. He was forbidden to wear sunglasses, so his eyes were damaged. On occasion, he was put into solitary confinement for the infraction of reading a smuggled newspaper. At night, somehow, he studied for advanced degrees and when, eventually, he got out of prison, he brimmed with forgiveness and demanded a colorblind society.

    When Frank Lautenberg died, we noted that he was the last World War II veteran in the U.S. Senate. Not many of our politicians have been to war, fewer still have been in solitary and few of those have chosen to forsake the easy life for the deprivations of a cause.

    They talk — and so do we journalists — about the bravery of this or that political position, but to my knowledge only John McCain and Rep. Sam Johnson, R-Texas, both POWs in Vietnam, know the utter terror of hearing the approaching footsteps of the torturer.

    I remember when Israeli Prime Minister Menachem Begin met with Ronald Reagan in 1981. The contrast could not have been more vivid. Here was the amiable movie actor, a man who had had an easy, fortunate life. And here was a man who had been a terrorist, a guerrilla fighter, who had lost his family in the Holocaust and had been imprisoned in the Soviet Gulag. At night, “after twelve or fourteen or sixteen hours of work, we had to dig ourselves deep into the snow and go to sleep,” Begin wrote in “White Nights,” a memoir of those days. In the morning, he would awake to find some of his fellow prisoners frozen to death. Reagan probably told Begin some Hollywood story. Begin probably kept his mouth shut.

    Most of us are like Ronald Reagan. What do we know of such travails? Could we be as brave, as indomitable, and as averse to self-pity? Could we rise above it all as Mandela has or, less successfully, as Begin did? When Mandela's mother died in 1968, he was not permitted to attend the funeral. When his son died a bit later, again he was not allowed to attend the funeral.

    When his wife Winnie cheated on him, he stood by her, divorcing her only later. When Reagan and Margaret Thatcher sided with the apartheid regime and refused to join the calls for Mandela's release, he forgave them and later met with them. He is not merely a big man. He is bigger than any man.

    What you find often in insurgents is a bitter hatred and the need to carry on the struggle even after it's over. This is not what happened with Mandela. He was not a freedom fighter looking to continue the fight — a Yasser Arafat unable to put down his gun and take yes for an answer. Mandela was able to administer, to turn to politics, to plead for racial understanding and tolerance.

    More important, he embodied those qualities. He evened no scores, waged no vendettas, never made himself the cause, and cast a shadow across the inner lives of all people. He was the first black president of South Africa. He remains the standard by which we must judge ourselves.

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  2. What do these two images have in common?
    The fact that each is about having very little stuff yet a whole lot of happy memories.

    In this sub-6 minute talk, designer Graham Hill offers an idea: "<=>" or "less equals more".  Here are some sound-bites:
    We have about three times the amount of space we did 50 years ago... So you'd think, with all this extra space, we'd have plenty of room for all our stuff.
    I bet most of us have experienced at some point the joys of less: college -- in your dorm, traveling -- in a hotel room, camping -- rig up basically nothing, maybe a boat. Whatever it was for you, I bet that, among other things, this gave you a little more freedom, a little more time. So I'm going to suggest that less stuff and less space are going to equal a smaller footprint. It's actually a great way to save you some money. And it's going to give you a little more ease in your life.
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  3. What do we mean when we say, "Love"? Here is an excerpt from a post by Matt Fradd about what "love" means in Scripture, based on the Greek understanding and vocabulary.

    4 Words For Love
    The Greeks had at least four words for love. This makes a great deal of sense, especially when reflecting on
    how we throw the word around. I speak of loving my wife, and loving sushi; loving Jesus Christ, and loving surfing. My Son speaks of loving his Mother . . . and loving his pancakes. Surely in these cases we’re using the word “love” in different senses.

    Let’s take a look at the four Greek words for love.

    Storge means affection. So one might experience storge for his children, pets; comic book collection, and so forth.

    Philia pertains to love between friends. We see this in the word, Philadelphia,  which means “brotherly love,” from phile ”loving” and adelphos ”brother.”

    Eros refers to passionate love, “not only of a sexual nature, but also of an aesthetic or spiritual nature, for what is conceived of as supremely beautiful and desirable.” [1]

    Agape refers to the love of God. It is self-donating love which doesn't count the cost, and expects no reward.

    Peter, Do You Love Me?
    With those four definitions in mind, Let’s take a look at that beautiful conversation between Jesus and St. Peter in John 21. In particular, let’s look at the Greek words used for love to see if we can gain greater insight into what’s going on:

    When they had finished breakfast, Jesus said to Simon Peter, “Simon, son of John, do you love [Agapos] me more than these?” He said to him, “Yes, Lord; you know that I love [Philos] you.” He said to him, “Feed my lambs.”
    A second time he said to him, “Simon, son of John, do you love [Agapos] me?” He said to him, “Yes, Lord; you know that I love [Philos] you.” He said to him, “Tend my sheep.”
    He said to him the third time, “Simon, son of John, do you love [Philos] me?” Peter was grieved because he said to him the third time, “Do you love [Philos] me?” And he said to him, “Lord, you know everything; you know that I love [Philos] you.”
    When we understand the meaning of Agape and Philia it’s reasonable to conclude that, though Jesus was desirous of a heroic, and self-sacrificial love of Peter, he condescended to Peter’s level, settling for what he was capable of.

    It’s interesting to note, also, that after this exchange Jesus foretells Peter’s martyrdom, as if to say, “I understand that right now you’re capable only of philia, and so right now that’s all I will demand of you, but by my grace, you will one day one day be capable of agape.”

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  4. “All of humanity’s problems stem from man’s inability to sit quietly in a room alone.” Blaise Pascal wrote those words over three hundred years ago.

    Could he be right even today?

    Push notifications from Facebook, updates on Twitter and our own searching between apps or from screen-to-screen: very good information and very good means of communication bombards us. And that's what this video is about.

    Like many compelling presentations, some of this might be a little overdone, but the overall message is fascinating. Check out What the Internet is Doing to Our Brains.


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  5. Many of us have grown up around so many images and have heard the passion story of Christ so often that we are, in a way, accustomed to or normalized by the love and sacrifice in the Passion. Trying to give the audience another way to feel the depth of what the Father and Son did for us, I used this story as a modern-day analogy. It worked well.

    I used the following version of the story at a retreat in Rockport last night. It's from Matthew Kelly's Rediscovering Catholicism (there are other versions by other authors out there, also)Maybe you can use it - or maybe just appreciate hearing it yourself. You can listen to the story by clicking on the video or by reading the text below.

    Flu Pandemic: Story of Jesus Christ Analogy



    Imagine this...

    You're driving home from work next Monday after a long day. You tune in your radio. You hear a blurb about a little village in India where some villagers have died suddenly, strangely, of a flu that has never been seen before. It's not influenza, but three or four people are dead, and it's kind of interesting, and they are sending some doctors over there to investigate it. You don't think much about it, but coming home from church on Sunday you hear another radio spot. Only they say it's, not three villagers, it's 30,000 villagers in the back hills of this particular area of India, and it's on TV that night. CNN runs a little blurb: people are heading there from the disease center in Atlanta because this disease strain has never been seen before.

    By Monday morning when you get up, it's the lead story. It's not just India; it's Pakistan, Afghanistan, Iran, and before you know it, you're hearing this story everywhere, and they have now coined it as "the mystery flu." The President has made some comment that he and his family are praying and hoping that all will go well over there. But everyone is wondering, "How are we going to contain it?"

    That's when the President of France makes an announcement that shocks Europe. He is closing their borders. No flights from India, Pakistan, or any of the countries where this thing has been seen. And that's why that night you are watching a little bit of CNN before going to bed. Your jaw hits your chest when a weeping woman is translated in English from a French news program. There's a man lying in a hospital in Paris, dying of the mystery flu. It has come to Europe.

    Panic strikes. As best they can tell, after contracting the disease, you have it for a week before you even know it. Then you have four days of unbelievable symptoms. And then you die. Britain closes its borders, but it's too late. South Hampton, Liverpool, North Hampton, and it's Tuesday morning when the President of the United States makes the following announcement: "Due to a national-security risk, all flights to and from Europe and Asia have been canceled. If your loved ones are overseas, I'm sorry. They cannot come back until we find a cure for this thing."

    Within four days, our nation has been plunged into an unbelievable fear. People are wondering, "What if it comes to this country?" And preachers on Tuesday are saying it's the scourge of God. It's Wednesday night, and you are at a church prayer meeting when somebody runs in from the parking lot and yells, "Turn on a radio, turn on a radio!" And while everyone in church listens to a little transistor radio with a microphone stuck up to it, the announcement is made. Two women are lying, in a Long Island hospital, dying from the mystery flu. Within hours it seems, the disease envelopes the country.

    People are working around the clock, trying to find an antidote. Nothing is working. California, Oregon, Arizona, Florida, Massachusetts. It's as though it's just sweeping in from the borders.

    And then all of a sudden the news comes out. The code has been broken. A cure can be found. A vaccine can be made. It's going to take the blood of somebody who hasn't been infected, and so, sure enough, all through the Midwest, through all those channels of emergency broadcasting, everyone is asked to do one simple thing: Go to your downtown hospital and have your blood analyzed. That's all we ask of you. When you hear the sirens go off' in your neighborhood, please make your way quickly, quietly, and safely to the hospitals.

    Sure enough, when you and your family get down there late on that Friday night, there is a long line, and they've got nurses and doctors coming out and pricking fingers and taking blood and putting labels on it. Your spouse and your kids are out there, and they take your blood and say, "Wait here in the parking lot, and if we call your name, you can be dismissed and go home." You stand around, scared, with your neighbors, wondering what on earth is going on, and if this is the end of the world.

    Suddenly, a young man comes running out of the hospital screaming. He's yelling a name and waving a clipboard. What? He yells it again! And your son tugs on your jacket and says, "Daddy, that's me." Before you know it, they have grabbed your boy. "Wait a minute. Hold on!" And they say, "It's okay, his blood is clean. His blood is pure. We want to make sure he doesn't have the disease. We think he has the right blood type."

    Five tense minutes later, out come the doctors and nurses crying and hugging one another-some are even laughing. It's the first time you have seen anybody laugh in a week, and an old doctor walks up to you and says, "Thank you, sir. Your son's blood is perfect. It's clean, it is pure, and we can make the vaccine."

    As the word begins to spread all across that parking lot full of folks, people are screaming and praying and laughing and crying. But then the gray-haired doctor pulls you and your wife aside and says, "May we see you for a moment? We didn't realize that the donor would be a minor and we...we need you to sign a consent form."

    You begin to sign, and then you see that the box for the number of pints of blood to be taken is empty. "H-h-h-how many pints?" And that is when the old doctor's smile fades, and he says, "We had no idea it would be a little child. We weren't prepared. We need it all! .... But...but...I don't understand. He's my only son! .... We are talking about the whole world here. Please sign. We...we...need to hurry!"

    "But can't you give him a transfusion? If we had clean blood we would. Please, will you please sign?" In numb silence you do. Then they say, "Would you like to have a moment with him before we begin?"

    Could you walk back? Could you walk back to that room where he sits on a table saying, "Daddy? Mommy? What's going on?" Could you take his hands and say, "Son, your mommy and I love you, and we would never, ever let anything happen to you that didn't just have to be! Do you understand that?" And when that old doctor comes back in and says, "I'm sorry, we've got to get started. People all over the world are dying," could you leave? Could you walk out while he is saying, "Dad? Mom? Dad? Why...why have you abandoned me?"

    And then next week, when they have the ceremony to honor your son, and some folks sleep through it, and some folks don't even bother to come because they have better things to do, and some folks come with a pretentious smile and just pretend to care, would you want to jump up and say, "EXCUSE ME! MY SON DIED FOR YOU! DON'T YOU EVEN CARE? DOES IT MEAN NOTHING TO YOU?"

    I wonder, is that what God wants to say? "MY SON DIED FOR YOU! DOES IT MEAN NOTHING? DON'T YOU KNOW HOW MUCH I CARE?"

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  6. Excerpts from
    The Marks of Maturity, by Dr. Tim Elmore

    So what are the marks of maturity? We all love it when we see a young person who carries themselves well and shows signs of being mature. They interact with adults in an adult manner. Those kinds of students are downright refreshing. Let me give you a list of what I consider to be the marks of maturity. At Growing Leaders we seek to build these marks in young people, ages 16-24 as we partner with schools. This certainly isn’t an exhaustive list, but it is a list of characteristics I notice in young people who are unusually mature, intellectually, emotionally and spiritually. If you are a parent—this is a good list of qualities to begin developing in your child. If you are a coach, or a teacher or a dean, these are the signs we wish every student possessed when they graduate. For that matter, these are signs I wish every adult modeled for the generation coming behind them.

    1. A mature person is able to keep long-term commitments.
    One key signal of maturity is the ability to delay gratification. Part of this means a student is able to keep commitments even when they are no longer new or novel. They can commit to continue doing what is right even when they don’t feel like it.

    2. A mature person is unshaken by flattery or criticism.
    As people mature, they sooner or later understand that nothing is as good as it seems and nothing is as bad as it seems. Mature people can receive compliments or criticism without letting it ruin them or sway them into a distorted view of themselves. They are secure in their identity.

    3. A mature person possesses a spirit of humility.
    Humility parallels maturity. Humility isn’t thinking less of yourself. It is thinking of yourself less. Mature people aren’t consumed with drawing attention to themselves. They see how others have contributed to their success and can even sincerely give honor to their Creator who gave them the talent. This is the opposite of arrogance.

    4. A mature person’s decisions are based on character not feelings.
    Mature people—students or adults—live by values. They have principles that guide their decisions. They are able to progress beyond merely reacting to life’s options, and be proactive as they live their life. Their character is master over their emotions.

    5. A mature person expresses gratitude consistently.
    I have found the more I mature, the more grateful I am, for both big and little things. Immature children presume they deserve everything good that happens to them. Mature people see the big picture and realize how good they have it, compared to most of the world’s population.

    6. A mature person knows how to prioritize others before themselves.
    A wise man once said: A mature person is one whose agenda revolves around others, not self. Certainly this can go to an extreme and be unhealthy, but I believe a pathway out of childishness is getting past your own desires and beginning to live to meet the needs of others less fortunate.

    7. A mature person seeks wisdom before acting.
    Finally, a mature person is teachable. They don’t presume they have all the answers. The wiser they get the more they realize they need more wisdom. They’re not ashamed of seeking counsel from adults (teachers, parents, coaches) or from God, in prayer. Only the wise seek wisdom.
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